Legal Definitions - domestic abuse

Domestic abuse refers to a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used by one person to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner or household member. This harmful behavior can manifest in various forms, including physical violence, sexual violence, emotional or psychological abuse, financial abuse, and coercive control. It is not limited to married couples but can occur between individuals who are dating, cohabiting, separated, or who share a child, as well as between other members of the same household.

• Example 1: After losing his job, Mark began to frequently yell at his wife, Sarah, blaming her for their financial difficulties. He would often throw objects during arguments, though not directly at her, and would prevent her from visiting her family or friends, insisting she stay home to "support him." He also started checking her phone and email without her permission.

  This illustrates domestic abuse through a pattern of emotional and psychological control. Mark's yelling, blaming, throwing objects (creating an intimidating environment), isolating Sarah from her support network, and monitoring her communications are all tactics designed to assert power and control over her, even without direct physical violence against her person.

• Example 2: Emily's boyfriend, David, insisted on managing all of her money, including her paychecks. He would give her a small allowance for groceries and personal items, but she had to ask him for larger purchases. He also frequently threatened to leave her if she didn't comply with his demands, making her feel financially dependent and trapped.

  This demonstrates financial abuse and coercive control. David's complete control over Emily's finances, restricting her access to her own money, and using threats of abandonment to enforce his will, are clear examples of using economic means to maintain power and control within their relationship.

• Example 3: Following their separation, Michael repeatedly sent his ex-partner, Lisa, harassing text messages and emails, sometimes dozens a day, criticizing her parenting and threatening to take their children away if she didn't follow his specific instructions regarding their upbringing. He also showed up unannounced at her workplace and home, making her feel constantly watched and unsafe.

  This exemplifies psychological abuse and intimidation, even after the relationship has ended. Michael's persistent harassment, threats regarding their children, and unannounced appearances are all behaviors intended to instill fear, exert control, and undermine Lisa's sense of safety and autonomy, fitting the definition of domestic abuse.